I write this with a particular segment of society in mind. Those who desperately need approval and relationship with others...but cannot find it...are who I wish to cheer.
First, I'm sorry that you can't find that niche of approval you so desperately desire. Loneliness is a horrible condition. Along the way, I've watched a few try a bit harder than others to gain attention; but what they don't realize is that they are shooting themselves in the foot. Through their drive to gain personal sympathy via their steady rehearsal of their woes, these drive good friends farther away.
I'm not saying the result is right. I am saying that I want to help any in this condition to try another tactic.
Rather than bemoan the sorry circumstances you are in (and here I refer only to those who never have anything positive to say), switch the direction of your conversation. Give a verbal boost to others who could use a word of hope. At this juncture you will find yourself very needed just as you had always wished.
It's a strange thing and a most consistent one. What we sow, we reap. Plant words of negative bummerisms about your condition and you'll never...never...dig your way out. You assume that it's because of circumstances that bring your misery. But likely it's your speech; the way you talk. Obsession with self bums self and draws no positive attention. Driven to cheer others on brings a new sort of fulfillment. It's all found within our words; not our circumstances.
I root for you; for everyone. 99% of the populace does a decent job of speaking life. They talk it, walk it...and therefore...receive it. Whether it's a good day or bad does not determine what kind of day you are having...and I'm not speaking of becoming pretentious nor fake. I'm saying that in every illness, in every catastrophe, in every death, there are words of praise able to be offered.
We all go through depression. The secret to getting out is not more money or new friends. The real secret is to change your language to where you find reason to speak of the goodness you see in God, in life, in others. If you are miserable, you have sown it through your words. If you are an endurer, you have spoken about life in a way that attends to others.
What you sow...you receive. Tell others about how and why you love them. It will bless them...and you.
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