One of Satan's greatest and most effective tools sprinkled throughout the kingdom are hard feelings. We actually can become so desensitized to our own villainous hearts we can smile while we say we don't like someone(s). Such is a mistaken doctrine. It's based on self-protection; not self-dying. It shows no mercy and doesn't want to discuss the opening regions of merciful ways.
Our brotherhood would find old wounds evaporate if we could get at actuality rather than hard feelings. As cotton candy is pure sugar, hard feelings are pure emotion. Emotion too often rules.
I've often wondered about the famous heritage names of ours: Nichols, Tant, McGarvey, Campbell (both), Stone, and Raccoon John Smith, etc. Do you suppose any of their stances ever took form because of heated debate with a brother they "didn't like"? I believe we'd be most naive to assume such never happened. I've been around enough of our present-day famed preachers and I'm telling you it goes on.
What happens is we divide up into camps; each has a banner over it, "The Truth". Yet, emotions have led many to their conclusions. I've been caught there. We are more than Republicans or Democrats...who by the way....seem to reach many of there positions due to emotion, as well. We are in the True Kingdom, where He's building his True Church. Such isn't to be hateful, spiteful, nor divisive at a touchy whim.
I meet too many people at funerals who don't seem to be as roughly poised about their old stances as they are---and finally---positioned to find a reason to be warmly united.
If you have anyone in your life with whom there is blatant distress over hard feelings, I encourage you to develop a prayer life to benefit the one whom you regard as your enemy. And....watch out, God will do some of His best work!